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September 2012 BrainBuzz
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Redirect and Deal with Bully Behavior
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The new school hear has begun with eagerness about a new classroom, teacher and friends. However, for too many students fear and worry accompany them to school because of Bully Behavior.
Merriam Webster's New College Dictionary (1960) definitions of Bully are: 1. Good fellow, fine chap, 2. A blustering, browbeating fellow; one cruel to others weaker than himself, 3. Jovial, dashing, good or gallant.
Sadly, we hear or read more about the 2nd definition than the others. "School Yard" Bullies are now joined by an increasing number of "Workplace" and "Cyberspace" Bullies.
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Bully Behavior increases as a child's or adult's level of self-esteem decreases. Bullying and other forms of aggressive behaviors that begin in childhood continue into adulthood if proper intervention is not provided.
According to statistics on the Put Away Bullying website, bullying is on the rise in our schools across the country: 81% of U.S. public schools reported one or more violent incidents in the 2003/2004 school year, up from 71% in 1999/2000. We need to raise awareness in our community, among kids, parents, school teachers, and administrators and encourage all involved to take the problem seriously.
- 282,000 students are physically attacked in U.S. secondary schools each
month
- Bullying has long-term effects for the victim. ◦Those that are bullied tend to
grow up more socially anxious, with less self-esteem and require more mental health services throughout life
- 100,000 students carry a gun to school, often to protect against being
bullied
- Bullies who are not stopped have long-term problems. ◦60% of those
characterized as bullies in grades 6-9 will have at least one criminal conviction by age 24
You can read more information at the Put Away Bullying
website.
Below are Brain Color Bully Behaviors that describe adults and children:
Yellow Brain Bullies: Must demonstrate they are in control of a situation or relationship
Blue Brain Bullies: Engage in passive aggressive behavior to make other people feel badly
Green Brain Bullies: Intimidate others with their sense of superior intelligence
Orange Brain Bullies: Physically dominate others with their size and/or strength
The following are the four definitions of the individuals involved in involved in "Bully Behavior":
1. The Bully: The aggressor
2. The Bullied Child or Adult: One who is harassed at school, work or home
3. The Baiter: One who torments, teases or goads to provoke a reaction
4. The Bystander: One who does not get involved out of fear or indifference
The 1997 1st publication of Princess Shayna's Invisible Visible Gift did not deal with Bully Behavior. However, in the 2nd edition, which was published last year, I included a paragraph about the four Villages in the Kingdom of Kindness and how the villagers dealt with Bully Behavior...
“Adults are accountable for teaching children the difference between open-minded manners and unacceptable behavior when they are not feeling good about themselves at home, school, or in the village,” White Falcon said. “Each child learns the How to Treat Others Principles: Do not frighten, embarrass, threaten, or push and shove others, and do not be mean and hurt other villagers’ feelings by make fun of their ideas, excluding them from parties or games, talking behind their backs, taking their toys or books, or calling them nasty names.”
Bullying is serious and dangerous! Examining all the elements of a "Bully" incident(s) in a safe and comfortable environment, talking about "Bully Behavior" and seeking help from family members, friends, authorities and/or a professional therapist should always be encouraged.
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What Is Your "Parenting" Brain Color?
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On Wednesday, September 12th at 7:00pm, I am presenting a What Color Is Your Brain "Parenting" Program at the Ela Township Library. The program will focus on the parenting skills and styles and how they influence children's behavior.
Yellow Brain Parents are Dependable and Dedicated
Blue Brain Parents are Devoted and Encouraging
Green Brain Parents are Objective and Unemotional
Orange
Brain Parent are Fun and Resourceful
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Children's tee shirts explain their Brain Color Personalities:
Yellow Brain Children's tee shirts read: "I am responsible and proud"
Blue Brain Children's tee shirts read: "Let's work together"
Green Brain Children's tee shirts read: "It has to make
sense"
Orange Brain Children's tee shirts read: "I am a bundle of energy"
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The first observance of Labor Day was a parade on Tuesday, Sept 5, 1882, at New York, New York. It was organized by Peter J. McGuire, a Carpenters and Joiners Union secretary.
In 1883 a union resolution declared "the first Monday in September of each year a Labor Day."On June 28, 1894, President Grover Cleveland signed into law an act making the first Monday in September a legal holiday for federal employees and the
District of Columbia.
Labor Day is also celebrated in Canada on the first Monday in September. In other countries, Labor Day is observed on May 1. |
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I have been fascinated by the Labor Movement since I began reading The Woman Behind the New Deal - The Life of Frances Perkins, FDR'S Secretary of Labor and His Moral Conscience. Frances Perkins was the first woman cabinet member in the history of the United States. She served as President Franklin D. Roosevelt's Secretary of Labor through the Great Depression and World War II (1933 until 1945). The story of Secretary Francis Perkins is a masterpiece of American history and women's rights and place in America during the 20th Century. Secretary Perkins championed many aspects of President Roosevelt's New Deal, including the Social Security Act, laws against child labor,the minimum wage, overtime laws and the standard forty-hour work week in the United States.
I could not help making comparisons to what was happening in the United States during the Great Depression and the current economic recession. History does repeat itself! No mater what your political view, you will enjoy and be inspired by this well crafted biography of a woman who was small in stature, but mighty in determination to make the work place a better place for men, women and children! |
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Last, but certainly not least. Please, take a moment today, September 11, 2012, to remember the individuals who perished and their families, those who were injured, and the first responders and citizens who heroically offered their assistance during the
grievous tragedy that befell the United States and the World Community eleven years ago today!
Each Brain Color Personality discovers ways to create a remembrance or legacy that brings them comfort and eases their grieving process.
Yellow Brainers establish a memorial tradition and/or prayer.
Blue Brainers enjoy sharing stories about
their loved one or friend.
Green Brainers want to observe a private time of commemoration.
Orange Brainers engage in a enjoyable activity, such as releasing balloons.
The following poem, from one of my favorite poetry books written by Francis Woodworth Howells, simply expresses the sense of heartbreak.
Tragedy
Sometimes, as quickly falls a shoot star,
A life is changed.
A heart receives a scar.
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If you or your organization need to improve collaboration and communication,
I can assist you with a customized What Color Is Your Brain? Program. Please, call me at 847.526.9039 or email me at snglazov@comcast.net.
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Thank you, Sheila
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Acceptance
Self-worth
Capability
Empowerment
Respect
Creative Problem Solving Skills
Carefully blend equal amounts of all ingredients.
Let self-esteem rise in a warm and trustworthy environment.
Fold in lots of love and sprinkle with pride.
Generously share with some one you care about* daily.
Makes one healthy and happy individual.
*may substitute your child, loved one, sibling, spouse,
parent, student, friend, neighbor, colleague, etc.
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